The "When I'm Gone" Effect

The "When I'm Gone" Effect
It's sad to say it comes to everyone as a surprise...
but it's no surprise.
Classic case of boy meets girl/girl meets boy.

Guys, you find a good chick
that you like more than the fact she likes the dick.
Ladies, you find a good man
that likes you more than your looks.
She's beautiful, she cares, doesn't want you just for your money and you know good and well she could be the one.
He's handsome, treats you right, doesn't want you just for the title and you know good and well he could be the one.
There's good chemistry, great personality, nonstop humor,
a wit & intelligent and love felt by all
his for her, hers for him.
A good love.

The love is going nice and strong
But as time goes on
they ran out of it,
something went rancid!

Somehow, at some time
things were said:
words and objects.
Things were hurt:
hearts and feeling, prides and egos.

As they make their final arguments
she says, "you'll never know how good you had it."
He says something that hits home HARD and hurts...
She gathers her strength and states,
"you'll miss me when I'm gone."

The trial was ugly
the verdict is: no longer together
irreconcilable differences he/she was an [censored]
you're now broken up because you both screwed up!

It's a shame it took a break up for him
to realize how good of a woman he had
It's a shame it took a break up for her
to realize how good of a women she is.

It's the age old "when she's gone"/"when he's gone" or "when I'm gone" effect.
No matter if it was she or he who ultimately messed up in the relationship.
We all know not to get into a relationship if we're not ready
and better yet,
getting into a relationship to make you feel happy is a recipe for disaster
because 2 unhappy people starting a relationship only makes one miserable couple.
You're only getting back what you put in.

With that being said,
Why get into a relationship to test your worth?
Or better yet, to find out what your worth is?
Again, it's sad to say, people only discover their worth
"when I'm gone" after the damage is done,
the undervaluing of self by self and others.

It's about time people, both men and women
know their worth before getting into a relationship.
Know your worth so that it can
never be undervalued, destroyed or treated any less that what it is.

Know your worth
so that next time you won't fall victim to the realization of the "When I'm Gone" effect.

"Shine" by Mikeman

I don't get how anyone can be with someone that dims their shine.
I couldn't be with someone that comprises what's mine.
She's the star in the relationship and its clear to see.
With a future and personality so bright,
her dude must of caught her with a bunch of artificial neon lights.
Boyfriend mean muggs while the girl lights up the room with a smile
that'll light up the night sky for miles.
I'm not speaking as another dude trynna get at her.
I'm speaking as the one who reminds her.
She'll never be that that star she was destined to be
not hangin' wit that B.
You shine 'cause you're a star
I just need you to know who you are.

by Mikeman

Your 2 cent...

Now I'm very openminded person.
Open to all & everyone's opinions.
They all matter to me. It gives a new perspective and outlook on life...
From music and decision-making to achieving my goals, etc & everything!
I am completely open to all ideas and input.
I take it all into consideration before I make my finals decision.

But if there is ever ONE thing
I hate when people try to put their 2 CENT in...
it's in anything relating to
my RELATIONSHIPS!

I don't know what it is but lately everyone from friends to fam have been trynna tell me how to get a girl or what kinda girl to get. Like to date an Asian girl or "you gotta go in for the kill" or "don't text her till 3 days after you get the number Mikeman" or "I got this girl for you and she down for whatever."
I have no idea where this is all coming from.

Main point:
DON'T offer your dating/relationship advice to me. It secretly PISSES ME OFF. You ain't me. You don't know what I like or want or prefer in a woman or how I got about getting that. It's honestly been my PET PEEVE ever since the days of elementary. I'm more than capable of getting a girl and holding down a relationship without your help.

I'm not a completely private person at all... BUT I don't talk about my relationships [that's one part of my life I keep private]. This isn't to say its non-existent I just don't want people asking & intruding with advice or questions on what to do and how to get one, etc. I mean, I don't do that shit to you so don't do it with me but people still gon' put in their 2 CENT regardless...
*shrugs shoulders*

just know your 2 CENT concerning my relationships mean NOTHING are VOID.

Letting it be known for future reference,
Mikeman

"Our friends need new friends"

Sup!
the bestfriend (Jessica) & I have been thinkin' after doing a lot of hanging out over this Winter Break w/ our friends, friends' friends and our own friend.
"Our friends need new friends."

OD [overdose] // stalkers // threats // drunk fights // hospitalizations //

shit talking on an epic scale // drinking & driving //

domestic abuse on a pregnant woman

This is just the kind of drama and friends' fake friends I've been around lately intermingled with real friends. I'm there for my friends 100,020,000% there's no doubt about that. And I've been there for my friends every step of the way thru thick & think and thru bullsh*t and drama but when "your circle of friends start to endanger my circle of life" we have a problem. "Our friends need new friends."

Basically watch not only your but your friend's circle of friends also ...because when they start negitively affecting you and yours CHANGE must be made.
[which I am in the process of doing]

-Mikeman

"Out of Love"

"Out of Love"
by Michael A Bowens

In and Out of Love like Cheri Dennis
Back and Forth like a game of tennis
Same thang expecting a change
This is INSANE!
And yet we live it.
You wanna break but not break up
We're exclusive but I saw you with him
I love you, I hate you
let me love you, fuck you
like opposites we attract
but like damn magnets we repel
We don't fight tooth & nail because we're not together,
So I can't "go to hell"
You're volatile and unstable
And for us I was willing and able
But I was playing you, playing me
We both can see that this cant be
Thinking the same will change
living the beautiful insane
Score: 0 to 0 love
because there is no love, love
I'd love a rematch
but 'til then
Out with Love.

Mikeman